There are no mistakes in life only lessons.There is no such thing as negative experience,only opportunities to grow, learn and advance along the road of self mastery. From struggle comes strength .Every pain can be a wonderful teacher.

In my language" your I CAN is more important than your I.Q"

To transcend pain you must first experience it. Or to put it another way , how can you really know the joy of being on the summit of the mountain unless you have visited the lowest valley.

"To savour the good you must know the bad".

But stop judging the event as positive or negative just experience it , imagine yourself standing on a high plateau and the mighty winds coming from opposite direction and striking your face, gushing through you blood and motivating you to speak aloud to the storm"Time will come when i will force you to flow in my direction ".

Most people have grown from most challenging situation. And if you feel that you have not met with the best possible outcome, remember the law of nature that if one door closes another opens